It’s That Time of Year Again.


There are 17 days left in 2016.  I’m sitting here really thinking, where did the days go?!  It seems like I was just counting down, “Three, two, one.  Happy New Year!” …OK. What I meant to say was that I woke up at 12:13 AM to missed phone calls and texts, followed by me rolling back over. Welcome to the 30+ club. But, that’s another topic in itself.

This time last year, I had set goals for myself.  Like so many people I know, I created a vision board.   There was only one problem.  It seemed like my 2016 vision board was dang near the same as the 2015 board, and damn it the 2014 board. WTF???!  I had repeat goals for the past couple of years. So what was holding me back?!  I saw a few people around me who were doing their thang'(meaning they were completing their personal goals), yet I was stuck bringing in the old. Again.  Don’t get me wrong, I did complete some of my smaller goals, but why wasn’t I checking off ALL of the goals on my board when I had the same 365 days to do it as everyone else?

According to a study done by University of Scranton,  only 8% of people  actually complete their new year resolutions.  We tell ourselves that we are going to accomplish XYZ (i.e. lose weight, go back to school, organize more, get closer to God, buy a house, go on 5 trips a year, take better care of our hair, etc.), but sometimes the goals we set are out of reach at that particular time in our life.  For instance, I put a house on my board, yet I hadn’t even been saving up for a house.  So how in the hell did I think Image result for man with question marks memeI was going to purchase a house this year?! The Lord says ask and you shall receive, but He also gave me wisdom.  So if faith works=dead, then the house was just a figment of my imagination.

I can attest, the people who complete their goals are DEDICATED and MAKE GREAT USE OF THEIR TIME.  If we want to reach our goals, we have to figure out what changes need to occur for it to happen.  We can’t keep doing the same thing we’ve done in the past and expect a different outcome.  As I mentioned in my first post, procrastination has been a major issue, but I’m working on it.  Even though I didn’t get my dream house, I was able to complete other goals and do great work.  Hey, I even started this blog, and it hadn’t even crossed my mind earlier this year.

As my wisdom increases, I’m learning that even though it is important to write down my short term and long term goals so that I don’t lose sight of them, I’m not in a binding contract with them.  Circumstances change throughout the year.  I may develop a new interest and want to focus on that instead.  I don’t have to beat myself up if I didn’t do what I set out to do.

Take each day in stride and realize that every year of your life is a separate marathon race.  It’s not your typical 5K race where you just sign up, no preparation needed, and bam you’re at the finish line grabbing your medal.  This marathon race called life calls for you to sign up (set goal), train (set mini goals, develop a plan, allow for time to practice), and run at a steady pace (Just Do It!). You will appreciate yourself more you realize the blood, sweat, and tears you put into it.

So, here we are.  We have almost two weeks left in 2016.  Here comes the, “New Year, new me.”, “Steppin’ into 2017 like…”, “Leaving ____ in 2016”.  Don’t be that person.  There’s no better day to start, than TODAY! Life is just a vapor.  Trial and error. One minute we’re here.  The next minute, we’re gone.  Cut those people you need to cut off today.  Start the workout plan today (Christmas is one day…again ONE DAY), start looking for a new job today.  Start planning your business today.  Communicate the truth to them today. Tell them you love them today.  Stop playing yaself’ today.  At the end of the day, give it our all.  Be a winner, not a whiner.



Cubs Win!

Teammates Celebrating (photo courtesy of

Last night, you may have fell asleep and weren’t able to catch the full game where the Chicago Cubs beat the Cleveland Indians.  The Cubs won the 2016 World Series Title.  The last time they won was in 1908.  That was 108 years ago.  Man. Words can’t describe the way they must’ve felt after the time ran out in the last inning.  I have so many people on my timelines in support of the team.  Some of the people have been die hard fans and have followed them every year.  Others are being called “bandwagon fans”.  A bandwagon fan is a person who has shown no interest in a team.  However, when the team begins to win games, appears to be a loyal fan because they are doing well. I’d like to challenge people to think outside of their personal box and believe that people can actually be Sincere when they shout, “Yay, they won.”

How many times has a friend put you on to new music and suddenly you start finding old music from the artist that you enjoy?  Guess what happens next?!  You can become a fan.  Just like that. Fans are CAN be created overnight. There is no time limit people.  When you show interest in a person or team’s journey from where they were, to where they are now, you begin to show admiration or respect for them.

I must admit, I have never been an avid baseball watcher. My lack of patience has had me fidgeting in my seat at previous games.  Nonetheless, I gained respect for this team.  I may even watch a couple games next season.  For those who don’t believe people are sincere in their sentiments, just stop.  There will come a time in everyone’s life when they are not the first person to learn of a new or old group, artist, team, topic, etc. Bandwagon fans can take interest at any time.  Be okay with this and enjoy the celebration. Go Cubs!


Procrastination is a Motha’


The Struggle is Real.

I do this shit every time. I wake up and say, “OK, I’m not going to bullshit around today.” But then, 1 hour and 3 minutes later, I’m still in the bed STILL scrolling through my Instagram, laughing at the Snaps, and rolling my eyes at the posts on Facebook. Then I get up, say a quick prayer, and hit the ground running. I don’t know what it is about putting tasks off until the last-minute that gets my gears churning, but it does.  You’d think that having more time to complete something would be more beneficial, but it’s something about that rush that gets me going.


I’ve told myself that I was going to create a blog for years. Yet, I never completed it. I put that shit to the side. I also said I was going to write a book.  Guess, what? That ish is still “in the works”-meaning I have names of the chapters.  I logged on to WordPress today because my procrastination leg was officially over.  I received a notification saying that I created this site one year ago. One more time. ONE YEAR AGO.  How triflin’ is that?  I had intentions of creating my blog, yet I never completed it.   Merriam-Webster’s simple definition defines procrastination as:  to be slow or late about doing something that should be done: to delay doing something until a later time because you do not want to do it, because you are lazy, etc. I was shaking my head in agreement until I read “lazy” * clutches pearls*.  Me…lazy? I don’t think so! But, as I sit here and think about all the things I have put off (school, work tasks, folding laundry, working out, doing my hair, etc), I’m come to the realization, that it was out of sheer laziness.

Let’s face it.  I can complain all day about all the things that I need to do.  But as long as I put them off, the stuff simply wont get done.  Success won’t happen when I put things off for a later date. I can’t get back “now”.  Every second that I procrastinate could be time invested in myself or others.  It’s time to stop procrastinating…well let me keep it real-not do it as much and work towards my dreams. Hey, I just finished my first post.  It may have taken a year, but in the words of Mrs. Sofia, “Things gonna change ’round here”.